Self-Love Before Valentine’s Day: How I Reconnected with Myself
Valentine's Day is Around the Corner: But First, Let's Talk About Self-Love
Valentine's Day is almost here, and while we often associate this time with expressing love for others, let's pause for a moment and talk about something even more important—self-love.
What does loving yourself even mean? For a long time, I didn't know either.
Let me share my story.
The Relationship We Forget to Nurture
I've heard it so many times—"the most important relationship in your life is the relationship with yourself." But for years, those words meant nothing to me.
I was living without truly listening to my soul. I didn't know what I wanted, what made me happy, or what felt right for me.
Instead, my mind was filled with other people's opinions, advice, and expectations—from parents, friends, mentors, and successful people. I thought that if I followed their path and listened to them, I would find success, peace, and love.
How I Lost My Connection With Myself
It all started when I decided I needed to take better care of my body.
I became obsessed with strict routines. I hired a specialist who gave me a structured plan—telling me what to eat, when to eat, even if I wasn't hungry. I followed everything strictly, believing that this was "the right way."
But something inside me began to shift. I was disconnected from my body and its desires.
At one point, I avoided everything labeled as "unhealthy" because I believed that was the only way to be "right."
That was the only way to love myself.
But instead of feeling good, I felt exhausted, drained, empty.
I remember sitting there one day, looking at a "perfect meal" in front of me, and realizing... I wasn't even happy anymore.
What's the point of following the "perfect routine" if it makes you feel miserable? If being "healthy" comes at the cost of losing your connection to yourself—is it really health?
The Trap of Social Media & Comparison
And social media made it worse.
I started comparing myself with others. I saw "perfect" bodies, "perfect" lives, "perfect" results.
And without realizing it, I started asking myself:
"Why don't I look like that?"
"Why isn't it that easy for me?"
"What else do I need to do?"
That spiral stole my joy, and I didn't even notice it until I hit a breaking point.
One day, I understood that I had to take control of that—because I wanted to feel happy.
And how do you do that?
By knowing yourself. By knowing what YOU want—not what somebody else thinks you should want.
How I Started Reconnecting With Myself
I started with something very small.
Every time I opened social media, I set a timer for 5 minutes.
Why?
Because that stopped me from spending too much time there and feeling miserable.
And every time I caught myself in that spiral of comparison, I stopped and asked:
"This is someone else's life, not mine. I don't know what they are going through. But I do know what's happening in my life. How can I take care of myself today?"
That was the first step toward change—awareness and choosing to do something for myself.
But there was something else still holding me back.
The 5 Things That Pull Us Away From Ourselves
Let me share what I realized along this journey:
📌 Comparison – Always looking at others, never at yourself.
📌 Non-acceptance – Rejecting your body, life, and personal path.
📌 Expectations – Trying to live by other people's standards instead of your own.
📌 Attachment – Holding onto things that don't serve you.
📌 Taking everything too seriously – Forgetting that life is meant to be lived, not just controlled.
How You Can Start Reconnecting With Yourself
If you want to hear your own voice again, try these two practices:
📌 "Who am I?" Exercise
Set a 5-minute timer. Sit in silence and ask yourself: "Who am I?"
Write down whatever comes to mind without judgment.
At first, the answers may feel simple or unclear, but if you do this every day, you'll start uncovering deeper truths about yourself.
📌 "The Awareness List"
Once a month, take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle.
On the left side, write 10 things that don't feel right.
On the right side, write 10 things that make you happy.
Don't look at your previous lists when writing a new one. Over time, compare them.
You'll see how you evolve. How your problems shift. How happiness takes on different forms.
But the key is consistency. If you want a specific answer to your questions, you need to work hard every day to get it.
Self-Love Isn't Just a Concept – It's a Daily Choice
So my friend, right before Valentine's Day, I want to remind you one more time:
The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself.
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And remember:
Loving yourself isn't selfish. It's the foundation for everything else.
